Although my book How To Have Your Cake & Not Eat It All Too primarily refers to women, I am very well aware that this “mental illness” is also growing in numbers in men.
I don’t really like to put out the negatives, but I thought this was something I would share to open our eyes. It’s not easy to let it go. It is FREEING to let it go!
I blogged before the Furious Pete story about men and eating disorders, but still this remains so secondary to the female struggle, which is absurd. The statistics that they publish are questionable, as men are less likely to admit to having an eating disorder or can hide it better because it is not perceived as likely that this might be the case. I mentioned in a comment on the Furious Pete post that I had two male friends that admitted to me having bulimia. I suppose because I confided in them they did me. They were two entirely different people. The first one was a friend in college who just couldn’t control his eating and as he gained weight he had the exact same feelings as a woman – that he was becoming less and less attractive. Obviously in the 1980’s the whole eating disorder information became rampid, so he decided he would try bulimia. I was amazed when I found out because, like so many others, I had a stereotypical view of the disease.
The other friend did it for different reasons. He was my workout coach and very well built – solid muscle. Wonderful man, very sensitive though. And for him the bulimia was that he wanted to retain his sculpted body all the while eating the foods he enjoyed. Again I was surprised. We hear of ballerina’s being anorexic or bulimic, but we don’t equate a weight lifter in the same vain.
Here are articles worth reading to find out the differences of why a woman would consider an eating disorder versus a male.
The Silent Victims: More Men Have Eating Disorders Than Ever Before
The Young Men Dying To Stay Thin